Are you intrigued by your family’s history but daunted by the task of documenting it all? You’re not alone! Writing a full family history can seem overwhelming, but there’s no need to tackle it all at once. Instead, think small; consider capturing one person, one event, or one era at a time. Taking “micro” steps can be the key to unlocking your family’s story. By focusing on one manageable project at a time, your small stories can create a compelling, layered narrative over time.
I’ll give you an example based on my own experience. My initial goal was to write the story of my parent’s early life, their courtship and their marriage as a single project. Both of my parents have been deceased for more than 20 years, but I had a stack of letters, some photos, a few newspapers, and historic books on my hometown where my parents met, married, and raised their family. I didn’t want their story to go untold, and now we siblings were the older generation, the grownups, I felt it was our responsibility to do something about it.
With a burst of enthusiasm, I applied for my dad’s service record and paid the requisite fee. It arrived in due course. Although scanty, it proved to be invaluable when supplemented with additional research into the Royal Marines and the Second World War, the details of the ships that dad served on, and a few photographs.
I drafted a rough outline to guide my writing project, shared my intentions with my siblings who live on different continents, and immersed myself in the task. By the time I had written the first two chapters I realised:
a) The boundaries of my project were way too big if I was going to do their stories justice.
I needed to split the massive project into separate smaller projects to make it manageable for me as the writer, and engaging for the family as the readers.
b) Whilst I had a lot of information, I was missing vital data.
I would need to do additional research and reach out to extended family overseas to find out if they were privy to information that I was unaware of.
c) I had not factored in the emotional impact of my learning journey, not only on me but on my siblings, our children and our grandchildren.
Author Elizabeth St John said that writing a family history can be a profound emotional journey for the writer and this certainly was the case for me. Writing my dad’s story was a labour of love, and a treasure for our family.
With the benefit of hindsight, I have huge respect for anyone who takes the time to research and document their family story for perpetuity. These stories are not only valuable for our family, but these stories are also valuable to historians of the future.
If you feel ready to start capturing the essence of your family’s history, try tackling it one “micro bite” at a time. It works. If you need a hand, reach out. I’d be happy to help. Community workshops and one-on-one professional personal support tailored to your needs is available.
Angela Robertson is a writer, inspirational speaker, and workshop facilitator. Her non-fiction books are available in paperback, Kindle, and eBook formats from online bookstores. Amazon.com: Angela Robertson: Books, Biography, Blog, Audiobooks, Kindle